Episode 22 - Divorce: The Cleanup

The emotional wreckage post divorce requires concerted and intentional cleanup. You need to take your time and work through the process. Rushing into new relationships and running from the process of healing only postpones the inevitable and creates more problems than it solves. Join me for a discussion on the subject of recovering from a divorce.

Episode 21 - Divorce: The Church

Church-going Christians get divorced regularly. Its painful for everybody and can be very confusing to navigate. In this episode, Carpenter offers advice from both firsthand and professional experience on the matter of divorce in the church.

Episode 20 - Divorce: The Mess

Divorce is virtually always a mess and often in unpredictable ways. Here we examine many of the considerations people often overlook when contemplating ending a marriage. Gain a deeper understanding of the factors leading to marital breakdown and what you might expect post-divorce in terms of dating and finding a new partner.

Episode 19 - Gratitude 365

Find a reason, any reason, to be thankful. No matter how bad it seems, we can always find gratitude if we are willing. Giving thanks is an intentional decision and a learned skill. The hard part is moving from a persona of "victim" to a persona of "blessed." We must die to ourselves to find gratitude. In this video I explain what that means and how to do it. It has to be done on purpose and with persistence in order to reap the reward of deep peace and contentment. Listen for practical tips and general principles that will help you on your path to emotional health.

Episode 18 - Say No to Timid Say Yes to Strong

Learning how to stand up for ourselves and say no is fundamental to being emotionally healthy. We, in the mental health business, call it "assertiveness." Being assertive means overcoming the fear of what may happen in our relationships if we speak our mind. Assertiveness can be done well or poorly and I'll discuss examples of both. I'll give you lots of guidance on how to make meaningful change in this area of your life and some insight as to why it is so crucial to get this figured out.

Episode 17 - How to be a Gentleman During a Nationwide Sex Abuse Housecleaning

The men need to speak up. It's high time we took a stand against the way our mothers, wives, girlfriends and daughters are being treated in our society. It's not ok to objectify, abuse, rape, hit or otherwise take advantage of a woman. Share this video. Take a stand in your own life. Don't be part of the problem. It's ok to admit we've been wrong and try to do things differently.

Episode 16 - Gender bias and church patriarchy: Psychiatrist dissects his own mind.

Martin Carpenter MD plumbs his own mind on the subject of gender discrimination, describing how his own fears have prevented him from formally speaking out on gender bias in the past. Unlock the secrets of your hangups and frustrations as Dr. Carpenter analyzes this explosive topic with unprecedented vulnerability. Hear what Carpenter thinks of his own mother and what he will tell his daughter about being female in this world. Dr. Carpenter explains how the gender wars, tradition and power struggles abound in our homes and churches across the land. He shares the surprising and uplifting perspective that has provided meaningful closure for him. At the end of the video, Dr. Carpenter shares a song called "Mama's Pockets" he wrote and recorded inspired by his relationship with his mom.

Episode 12 - Hallelujah, Life's a Jip!

Here's why it just might turn out to be a good thing when everything you thought you knew comes crashing down. Dr. Carpenter elaborates on life stages and the emotional challenges common to most all of us. He describes what wisdom looks like and what happens as you age if you are not wise.

Episode 11 - Michael Lensing

So a Shrink and a Mortician walk into a bar, right... We talked about some taboo topics and got personal about what it's like to take care of yourself working in emotionally intense professions. Michael discussed his favorite spot in the funeral home which surprised me. It's the embalming room he finds most peaceful. "There's no back talk." He elaborates on grief, the difference in family response to caskets vs ashes, what he'd ask God and how evil and death are related and a whole lot more.